Separation To Solve Marriage Problems
I’m going to be up front and say that separation is NOT a good way to solve marriage problems.
Some people say “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” — I don’t agree with this. From my experience, all separation does is give you time to think.. and thinking isn’t always the best thing.
If you can think positively and justify or deal with the negatives, then maybe .. but MOST people can’t do this.. as a matter of fact, very FEW people can do this..
So my friends will ask me: “Can separation help a marriage?” – and I tell them: “No.”
On the other hand, I am open minded, and can see where one would think this is good advice: “You don’t know what you have until it’s gone.. and separation simulates that.”
For advice on marriage problems like this – I tend to lean towards more practical viewpoints.. that is: separation will make you realize what you had, but it will also create distance.. especially if both parties don’t come to an understanding at the same time.
Say the husband decides that he can’t live without the wife.. but the wife is just starting to appreciate her new found space. If the husband goes back to the wife at that time, it could trigger an argument that pushes the couple further apart than they already are!
Watch out for the following marriage problem signs:
- Limited to no sex
- Arguing over small details
- Spouse not wearing ring
These are the top 3 signs that there are problems in your marriage. In todays day and age, couples are way too quick to see a marriage counselor or try a separation. From my experienced past, I would highly recommend open communication before all other measures.
The hard part is to keep an open mind and put yourself in your spouses shoes. If you’re both able to do that.. there will be some resolve.
But if think your situation is beyond fixing “in-house” – look to Mort Fertels Marriage Max program to save your broken marriage.
His program is very cost effective and was rated #1 marriage counseling program in 2009.
Just do yourself a favor and don’t do a separation to solve your marriage problems.. you’re only going to create more.. trust me!